Jada Pinkett Smith On Open Marriage: 'Will & I Can Both Do Whatever We Want'
In a recent interview with the Huffington Post, Pinkett Smith said of her husband of 14 years: "I've always told Will, 'You can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be OK.'"
Fans immediately wondered what the actress meant and whether she allows her husband to sleep with other women. She has since come forward to clarify her comments in an open letter:
"Let me first say this, there are far more important things to talk about in regards to what is happening in the world than whether I have an open marriage or not. I am addressing this issue because a very important subject has been born from discussions about my statement that may be worthy of addressing.
"The statement I made in regard to, 'Will can do whatever he wants,' has illuminated the need to discuss the relationship between trust and love and how they co-exist.
"Do we believe loving someone means owning them? Do we believe that ownership is the reason someone should behave? Do we believe that all the expectations, conditions, and underlying threats of 'you better actor right or else' keep one honest and true?
"Do we believe that we can have meaningful relationships with people who have not defined nor live by the integrity of his or her higher self? What of unconditional love? Or does love look like, feel like, and operate as enslavement?
"Do we believe that the more control we put on someone the safer we are? What of TRUST and LOVE? Should we be married to individuals who cannot be responsible for themselves and their families within their freedom?
"Should we be in relationships with individuals who we cannot entrust to their own values, integrity, and LOVE … for us???
"Here is how I will change my statement. Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship … this means we have GROWN one."
Not many celebrities talk so openly about their relationships with their partners/spouses.
Last year, Jada refuted rumors she and Will were having marital problems. She told French magazine Gala, "Every year, one celebrity couple is under the microscope. This year, unluckily, it's us! I almost want to say that we should have been expecting it. Will and I know the truth. We're waiting peacefully for the storm to blow over.
"These rumors are completely untrue. I travel a lot because of my work, just like Will does... But our lifestyle hasn't changed. Before we had the kids, we were already far away from each other quite often because of separate projects."